3. Provide assurance.
Saying “calm down” or “just relax” will do the opposite of helping during a panic attack.
You cannot feel or think what the other is experiencing, so telling him what to do will only add to the anxiety he’s feeling. Speak periodic quiet reminders that the attack will pass soon and you are there for support while it lasts.
Let him know that he is safe and everything will be all right once the symptoms subside. Above all, remain calm yourself; it’s not hard to get caught in the maelstrom.
4. Encourage breathing.
The impact of slow, deep breathing is almost miraculous during a panic attack. Breathe with the sufferer: deep inhalations through the nose – hold – exhalation through the mouth – hold – repeat. Ask her to focus on you and the breaths you share.
Panic attacks are treatable. If you or someone you know experience these bouts of extreme anxiety, you are not alone. Mental health professionals are becoming more knowledgeable and adept at helping to manage the disorders responsible for extreme anxiety. From the ADAA:
“In the past it might have taken months or years and lots of frustration before getting a proper diagnosis. Some people are afraid or embarrassed to tell anyone, including their doctors or loved ones about what they are experiencing for fear of being seen as a hypochondriac. Instead they suffer in silence, distancing themselves from friends, family, and others who could be helpful. Other people suffering from panic attacks don’t know they have a real and highly treatable disorder. It is our hope that through increased education, people will feel more empowered to discuss their symptoms with a healthcare professional and seek appropriate treatment.” (4)