8. Cover-ups and Alibis
Hiding true emotion means you have to lie. Plausible excuses and alibis are ever at-the-ready for someone who wants to avoid particular situations.
If someone is constantly coming up with reasons why s/he can’t do or participate in something s/he used to, avoids certain people or social circumstances, or becomes overly secretive, it can be a sign of inner struggle.
9. Obsessive Habits
Everyone develops her/his own ways of coping with stress and anxiety. We all have habits, both good and bad. A depressed person tends to rely on them. Whether it’s something seemingly healthy such as exercise or other routines like long drives, walks, cleaning, or smoking, if the routine is disrupted, a depressed person may become unreasonably upset. Habits offer a feeling of comfort and control; the loss of control—even if a minor thing—can be devastating for a depressed person. (8)
10. Outward Positivity and Denial
Posts on social media that reflect fun and going out of one’s way to say how great everything is can reflect denial of sad truth.
“So, why would anyone deny depression? There may be several reasons, the most obvious of which relate to work, self-esteem and self-image. Denying that your emotional state isn’t all it might be is a good way of pressing ahead. You may not be firing on all cylinders, but you’re hoping it’s just a virus or a bit of pressure that will pass. This is extremely common. It’s the psychological equivalent of running a car on reserve fuel and hoping it won’t shudder to a halt. Denying depression is caught up with all sorts of things. Men stand as a good example because depression doesn’t fit with their sense of self. They may view depression as something that affects women, or they may struggle with admitting their symptoms to themselves…On the one hand people with symptoms of depression are less objective about their own situation than they may be in assessing others. Equally, denial of depression is a major hurdle in seeking treatment. Denial is a powerful mechanism and one that, if confronted, can lead to angry and upsetting scenes,” explains Health Central. (9)
11. Deepened Awareness of Life and Death
Having gone through extensive consideration of life and perhaps ideation of death, a depressed person is keenly aware of both. (10) It may come in a purely personal form or in the larger view of society or the universe. (11) The meanings of mortality, life, and death can be subjects for which the depressed person has strong opinions and perceptions.
12. Experiencing an Existential Crisis
The search for life’s meaning for a depressed person can cause frequent changes: switching jobs, homes, cars, areas of study, relationships, and other major life decisions can indicate the constant quest to find what’s “right” with a constant feeling that something(s) is wrong. (12)